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Why does well-intentioned advice often lead to others feeling resentful?

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Post time 12-3-2024 06:28:24 | Show all posts |Read mode
Sometimes, even though it's well-intentioned advice, people may not appreciate it and feel uncomfortable. It's like the saying goes: "Good medicine tastes bitter, good advice may sound harsh." When giving advice, one can encounter this awkward situation. Why is that? Why is well-intentioned advice often disliked?

It's probably because humans have a sense of pride. When someone offers suggestions, it can feel like they are implying that you are not competent enough. Even if it's genuinely well-intentioned, it may still feel awkward and displeasing. People may feel looked down upon and, as a result, get angry.

Additionally, there's the notion that being persuaded by others robs one of their freedom. It's like being forced to take bitter medicine, even if it's for the greater good. People may feel uncomfortable, as if they are being compelled to do something without having a choice. In today's society that emphasizes freedom, this feeling can be quite unpleasant.

Furthermore, the way advice is delivered and the attitude behind it matter a lot. Some people lack tact in their communication, coming across as too forceful, which can be off-putting. Alternatively, individuals might use a very serious tone, creating a sense of oppression that people find disagreeable.

In conclusion, although advice is given with good intentions, it's essential to acknowledge that people can be sensitive and a bit petty. Therefore, when offering advice, one should be mindful of the approach, trying to make it more acceptable. After all, a confrontational approach will only ruin the mood.
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Post time 12-3-2024 07:18:15 | Show all posts
Actually, you don't necessarily have to use words to comfort and advise others. Just bring more joy to them and make them happy!
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Post time 12-3-2024 09:34:32 | Show all posts
Advising others to understand the essence and root cause of a problem is crucial. Offering solutions that don't address the core issue only adds to their mental burden, leaving them unable to explain and feeling even more distressed.
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Post time 12-3-2024 09:34:36 | Show all posts
Sometimes it might be that the approach is not right.
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