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I don't know why so many people come to me to borrow money; I don't have any money...
One of the most valuable lessons we can learn from Jewish culture is wealth management. There's a saying among Jewish people: ""Don't lend money to a friend unless you don't want that friend anymore."" In the world of gambling, many friendships turn sour because of unpaid debts or delayed payments. Otherwise, once you lend to someone, they may habitually come to you for more!
If you don't lend to them, they'll go around saying all sorts of things about you, which is quite paradoxical!
A longtime colleague once said, ""Can you lend me some money? I'm in urgent need!"" I wasn't exactly flush with cash myself, as I had been scrimping and saving, even down to my last 2,000 yuan, just to prepare for unforeseen circumstances. So, I asked him, ""How much do you need?"" The old colleague replied, ""I owe someone 20,000 yuan. Can I borrow 10,000 yuan?"" I happened to have 10,000 yuan in my savings account, and reluctantly, I agreed to lend him 5,000 yuan. But the old colleague said, ""Can you lend me more? I've borrowed all I could, just 10,000 yuan!"" In the end, I refused to lend him 20,000 yuan and only gave him 5,000 yuan. In fact, from the very first question, ""How much do you need?"" I was already at a disadvantage. I knew that no matter how much I lent him, it would never be enough!
Lending money to others is a matter of goodwill, not an obligation. If someone gets angry or blames you because you won't lend them money, then that person doesn't deserve to continue the friendship. Have you all had experiences with lending money? How do you refuse such requests gracefully? |
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