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Recently, my family members fell ill, though not severely. I intentionally borrowed money from friends and relatives around me, but the amount I received was very little. It's true that you can see the true nature of people when it comes to borrowing money. Today, I won some money from sports betting and immediately used it to pay for the medical expenses. Some friends are not as reliable as winning a bit from gambling.
As you get older, you'll realize that you don't really need that many friends, and you don't have the time to maintain so many friendships. Ultimately, happiness and freedom come down to two things:
1. Having enough money.
2. Having harmonious family relationships.
Having too many friends can actually bring you a lot of trouble and headaches. People with fewer friends are the truly capable ones.
In fact, as you become more successful, you should remember that you no longer have real friends. You shouldn't confide in anyone, and you shouldn't take those who seem to be nice to you at face value. They all have their own motives for getting close to you. Once their goals are achieved, they can easily turn against you!
Even your own siblings may feel uncomfortable when they see you doing better than them, let alone these so-called friends. Unless you're sharing your earnings with them, truly capable individuals have already seen through the facade of interpersonal relationships.
In the adult world, without mutual benefits, there are no real interpersonal relationships. Making too many random acquaintances will only make you more exhausted and eventually lose yourself. To avoid getting hurt, the only method is to never show genuine sincerity.
Some may say that this leads to a lonely life, but sometimes it's better to be lonely than to open your heart and get hurt by others. If your thoughts are not aligned with someone else's, it's best to stay away, or else your well-intentioned words will be meaningless to them.
Mice never think they are stealing, flies never think they are ugly, and snakes never realize they are venomous. Your perspective on issues is determined by your surroundings. Birds of a feather flock together, and who you spend your time with will shape who you become. Instead of wasting energy on class reunions and friend gatherings, it's better to:
1. Visit your parents during holidays, give them some money, and then get back to work.
2. Avoid spending too much time visiting relatives. Most family relationships are not based on your emotions or personal qualities but on what value you can provide. As long as you're willing to treat them, someone will be willing to have a meal with you.
You'll find that when you're deep in the mountains, you have distant relatives, but when you're struggling in the city, no one asks about you. It's only when you've truly hit rock bottom that you can see the true face of human nature, and what you see now is all just a facade, believe it or not. |
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